We are delighted you are getting married and that you are considering doing so at one of the churches in the Winslow Benefice.
We want to support you both for your wedding day and for the whole of your married life. We do this by meeting you and getting to know you to talk about the wedding ceremony, but also to think a bit about your marriage as a whole. Generally speaking, we would like to meet with you at least three times before your wedding day. Don’t worry - these are relaxed get togethers and are often quite special as we think about you as a couple.
This wedding pack is designed to answer some of your initial questions about getting married in church, but that doesn’t mean you cannot speak to Stephen, our rector, or one of the other members of the team if you need any more information.
You're welcome to marry in church whatever your beliefs, whether or not you are baptised and whether or not you go to church. And, marrying in church has never been easier thanks to a change in the law which means you now have more churches to choose from. You can marry in a C of E Church if you can show:
That one of you:
That one of your parents, at any time after you were born:
That one of your parents or grandparents:
And did you know that if you move house, you’re immediately connected to the church there? That means you can marry in the church of your new parish.
In all cases involving church services - i.e. going to normal church services, baptism, confirmation or marriage - this applies only to Church of England services. Even if you cannot demonstrate any of the above connections, we want to help you explore whether it may still be possible for you to marry in your special church. Talk to the vicar well in advance to discuss the options open to you.
By praying - in the church we believe that God is alive, loves us and answers our prayers. So prayer is our greatest gift to you. Your church wishes you a lifetime of love that grows within God's protection. By praying, the people in your church will ask God to bless your big day and all the days after that.
By reading your Banns - Banns are an announcement in church of your intention to marry and a chance for anyone to put forward a reason why the marriage may not lawfully take place. They're an ancient legal tradition and have been read every week in churches across the land for millions of couples over centuries. After your forthcoming marriage is announced, the congregation may be invited to pray for you. It can be quite special to hear this, so do go along if you can. You’re welcome to invite family and friends to hear your banns too if you’d like.
Banns need to be read in the parish where each of you lives as well as the church in which you are to be married, if that's somewhere else. You must have them read in church for three Sundays during the three months before the wedding. This is often done over consecutive Sundays but doesn't have to be.
If there's not enough notice for the banns to be read before the marriage is due to take place, or in the case of the marriage of people whose nationality is not British, or if one or both of you do not live in England, the Common Licence procedure needs to be used. This procedure also provides an opportunity to address any doubt there may be as to the legal requirements of the home country of a non-British person regarding the recognition of an English Church marriage. (Information from Diocese of Oxford website)
The Verger – is the Church’s representative to assist with the smooth running of the wedding. They will be present throughout the wedding and are able to answer any questions you or your guests may have on the day.
By celebrating the good times - your church would love to see you and pray for you on special occasions, such as your wedding anniversary. If you have children, we would be happy to discuss their christening with you, if you feel this is something you would like to explore for them.
Rehearsals - most couples are reassured and enjoy the opportunity to rehearse their wedding service along with family and friends who will be involved. This is usually organised by the vicar as part of the preparations for your wedding.
Readings - all weddings in the Church of England include one or more readings from the Bible. There are many popular and exciting passages to consider. Some of these can be found on the Church of England website - have a read and see if any speak to you: churchofengland.org/life- events/your-church-wedding By being there during difficulties - life inevitably has its ups and downs. Churches can offer a confidential listening ear, friendship and prayer support if you need it.
By renewing your marriage vows - many couples like the idea of renewing their marriage vows to celebrate a special anniversary, or to mark the end of a difficult time. In most marriages these days, the bride and groom say the same vows to each other. It’s a ceremony that bonds you, not just in front of your family and friends, but in the eyes of God as well.
If you instruct your own florist, please note that flowers are not allowed on the altar. Please liaise with Derry French for the church availability for the florist to complete the work. Alternatively the Church Flower Group offer a wedding flower service as below.
CHURCH FLOWER ARRANGEMENTS
Please note the prices below are for the arrangement options - they do not include the cost of the flowers themselves. You may choose the combination of arrangements that you prefer.
Alternate pew ends
Total: £40 (£20 per side) £25 £20 £60 (£10 per pillar) £30 (£15 per side) £10 (ribbon only) £185
Above is the total range of options available from the Church Flower Group. Please note no flowers are allowed on the altar. These prices include the maintenance and clearing by Church personnel.
All flower arrangements by the Church Flower Group remain in Church after the wedding, except under exceptional circumstances when permission may be given. The prices quoted DO NOT include flowers, which are paid for separately.
Please contact Liz van de Poll at [email protected] to discuss your requirements as soon as possible after you have fixed your wedding date.
Ringing of bells at weddings is a long tradition that can be traced way back to the Celtic lands, where church bells were believed to have the power to ward off evil spirits and grant wishes. The tradition has spread all across the world, becoming a famous part of the modern church wedding.
Nowadays the ringing of bells is a symbol of happiness and the celebration of the couple’s new life together. The sound of bells will announce your news to the whole of the town and add an ambience of excitement to your day. If you choose to have bells on your special day, we provide:
Please could you complete as much of the form below as you can and pass it back to the Church Office, Market Place, Winslow MK18 3AB, AS SOON AS YOU HAVE THE DATE FOR YOUR WEDDING CONFIRMED, so that we can ensure we have our team on duty for your day.
Please see the Money Matters page for costs.
Wedding date & time: __________________________________________________
Bride’s name: ___________________________________________________________
Phone number: __________________ Mobile no.: _________________________
Please delete as appropriate:
Ringing both before and after the service?
Ringing just after the service?
Winslow has a large pipe organ and a four-part choir which will be happy to sing and play on your special day.
There is a fee for this (see Money Matters) and you will need to talk with the Music Director Miss Derry French regarding all music as soon as the date of your wedding is confirmed by telephone 01296 715 185, on mobile 07808 063 402, or by email to [email protected].
The hymnbook used at St Laurence is Hymns Ancient & Modern: Hymns & Songs for Refreshing Worship.
If you do not wish to have the organ and choir, we are able to offer alternatives. The following page contains some of the most popular hymns used at St Laurence. Other music can be considered and should be discussed with Derry.
The numbers next to each of the hymns are taken from Hymns Ancient & Modern: Hymns & Songs for Refreshing Worship.
Alleluia, Sing to Jesus 422
All things bright and beautiful 533
Amazing Grace (quiet) 587
As man and woman we were made (Tune: Sussex Carol) 343
Be still for the presence of the Lord (quiet) 358
Come to a wedding (Tune: Morning has broken) 344
Dear Lord and Father of mankind (quiet) 621
Father, Lord of all creation 630
Give me joy in my heart (Sing Hosanna) 638
Glorious things of Thee are spoken 641
Guide me, O thou great redeemer 652
I, the Lord of sea and sky (quiet) 494
I vow to thee my country (quiet) 579 Jerusalem 576
Lead us heavenly Father (quiet) 702
Lord and lover of creation (Tune: Westminster Abbey) 345
Lord Jesus Christ, invited guest & saviour 346
Lord of all hopefulness (quiet) 713
Lord’s my Shepherd, The (quiet) 799 or 800
Love Divine, all loves excelling 721
Make me a channel of thy peace (quiet) 725
Morning has broken 545
O Jesus I have promised 748 (various tunes)
O perfect love 348
O Praise ye the Lord 753
Praise my soul the King of Heaven 766
Tell out, my soul, the greatness of the Lord 394
The grace of life is theirs 349
Thy hand, O God, has guided 814
We pledge to one another (Tune: I vow to thee me country) 350
Bridal March - Wagner
Trumpet Voluntary/Tune - Purcell/Clarke
Prince of Denmark’s March
Ode to Joy – Beethoven
SIGNING OF REGISTER
Ave Verum - Mozart, Elgar, Byrd
Christ be beside me - Nobes
Day by day - Warren
Holy holy holy - Tchaikovsky
I am the holy vine - Andrew Moore
Look at the world - Rutter
The Lord is my shepherd - Goodall
My shepherd is Lord - Oxley
Panis angelicus – Franck
The peace of Christ be with you – Nobes
The whole bright world rejoices now - Hill
You are the peace of all things calm - Nobes
Toccata in F - Widor
Wedding March - Mendelssohn
Water Music - Handel
Nun Danket - Karg-Elert
Organ Symphony - Saint-Saens
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